I’ve asked a few people whether the lifestyle they are living is effective and busy of just busy. I usually get a long pause (because they didn’t see that one coming) alongside the answer: “at this point I’m not being effective I am just doing what I have to do”.
I don’t ask the question to judge anybody but lately I’ve been asking myself the same thing. If I had to choose between effectively busy and just being a busybody I would for sure go for the second one.
We women take some kind of pride in being busy. When we get the question “how was your day” our answer most of the time is BUSY, alongside the list of things we accomplished that day: quiet time, dropped the kids at school, went to work, did groceries, hit the gym, visited someone, picked up the kids, movie night with the hubby and so on!
We take it as a compliment when people are astonished at how on earth one person could get all that done and not lose their minds. For a moment we feel like a BOSS! You know, the “I can do all things through Christ” kind of feeling. The question is, aren’t we secretly losing our minds?
Aren’t we losing in some kind of way?
Giving our all to the company we work for only to look at what we’ve build for are selves and see nothing? Or completely focused on our side hustles that we do not notice the attention our children are missing? How about being so drained we rather walk in our pjs or onesie the whole day (which is a torture to our spouse by the way)?
Always on work mode, filling every gap there is to fill in every area of life, trying to be the ideal parent and attractive spouse at the same time. Making sure you don’t lose your best friends along the way by posting quotes as “ even though we are apart true friendship is about the heart”, excuses me! I ain’t friends with no ghost! I need to see you from time to time.
| We are losing while trying to win.|
Winning doesn’t mean saying yes to everything, winning means saying yes the right things!
We have an assignment here on earth, a calling, a purpose. Call it whatever, we’ve got things to do! The assignment on its own is a lot to handle and it comes with all sorts or responsibilities. Of course your activities can lead you into your purpose but what we need to be aware of is that some extra things we take on are actually diverting us from where we truly need to be in life.
We have 24 hours in a day and according to God that’s should be enough. So the question shouldn’t be how can I fill my day? But it should be, how can I be effective today?
It’s like when you’re traveling. You don’t just pack whatever there is to pack, you have your destination in mind and you pack the essentials because there is a maximum to the permitted weight of your luggage. You even leave some room for extra shopping during your vacay.
If we can do it for our journey to “Kumbaya-land” why can’t we do it while we are on our journey towards our purpose? We have limited time to live the life God created us for. Our days are numbered by the Lord so make sure you pack well! Only say yes to the essentials and leave room to reflect*, rest and hear the Holy Spirit directing you.
I was overwhelmed when I read about the proverbs 31 woman until I understood that this woman was a boss lady because of the thought she put into building her life. Everything she did worked hand in hand with each other to reach the purpose she had for her family and the poor.
Is your schedule leading you into your calling or are you just going with the flow and everyone else’s schedule? What’s the plan sista/brotha?
This year I had to develop a tough skin and say a few NO’s. And I felt it. In some situations I even felt bad or selfish. I had to say NO to certain ministries in church. I had to say NO to extra responsibilities at work that made me miss out on what is important to me. I had to say NO to request from family members. I had to say NO to certain friendships that had a negative effect on me. But on the other hand I had much more space to say YES to what I know I’m called to. And you know what, you don’t have to feel guilty when you say NO to what you know that you know is not for you because sometimes you are making room for the person who does belong there.
Now, I’m not encouraging anybody to start a rebel campaign. Just because you don’t feel called doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not. But I am encouraging you to ‘trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding. In all your WAYS acknowledge Him and He will DIRECT YOUR PATH’ (Proverbs 3:6,6).
And when it’s hard to make a right decision trust and listen to what the Spirit is telling you
‘Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, "This is the way; walk in it." (Isaiah 30:21).
Before you even start planning 2019, open your agenda and ask God to fill it in as He pleases and you will be shocked at how many NO’s you might have to say to get to your YES!
Love you friends and stay blessed!
*stay tuned for my post on Reflecting