Finally, I got it! Yes, my driver's license is in the pocket. Folks, you don't know what the lessons have put me through! I always thought I was tough until I started to learn how to drive. I went from fearless to fearful in no time! Most of the people I talk to enjoy driving and the whole experience but I didn't. I guess that's why I failed the first time.
But I am so so happy I was able to overcome my fear of... I don't even know what for!
And now I'm so excited! My family is excited and so are my friends.
So here's what my driving experience thought me:
1. Anxiety will cause unnecessary mistakes.
Anxiety is a nervous feeling or worry. Sometimes the anxiety we feel is based on nothing else than the worse case scenario we create in our mind, and I quote: WE CREATE. It's like we have a built-in system that assumes bad things will happen to us. In my case, I thought I was going to cause the worst accident ever. If only I could find the switch to turn of my anxieties while I was driving. Men! If you where there you would have seen the panic in my eyes while I was wrestling on the inside. I wanted my license so bad but it took me forever to overcome my fears. And If only I was able to relax and enjoy the ride I wouldn't have made the unnecessary mistakes I made (you don't even want to know). Mandela said it powerfully ”courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid but he who conquers that fear”. It took me quite a few lessons and a whole lot of prayer to overcome my fear! But hey, I'm guessing Mandela would call me brave?
2. Even when you have legit excuses, they will still not bring you any further, so do not rely on them. I had a lot of excuses for why I was repeating the same mistakes over and over again and I wanted some kind of validation from my instructor. Yet he would throw all my excuses overboard and say "If you want your license you need to break these patterns ".... Nuff said.
3. Another thing that will not bring you further is being narrow-minded. Sometimes during my driving lessons, I was able to focus on the road right in front of me and other times I mastered looking far ahead. But what I couldn't seem to do (even as a self-proclaimed multitasker) is both at the same time. But if I can't see what's happening ahead of me and I do not notice what's happening right in front of me then I can cause some serious accidents. And the accidents may not only affect me but also others that are on their journey.
It's good to focus on your now, but your vision for the future must not get lost in the process. So after figuring this out for myself, my next question was "how do I practically do both?"
Practice, practices, and practice! Do not give up just because you can't master a thing but if you want it then keep on keeping on, practice!
4. Plan ahead. A plan is not a luxury, a plan is compulsory. Creating a plan means you're preparing for the situation you are about to face. If you do not make your plan on time you will not know what to do when you approach an obstacle. In planning, you calculate your wins and risks. You may not be able to predict everything but you can prevent yourself from a few panic attacks.
5. "Failure" is not final! You can choose to make failure your final destination or you choose to accept the fact that it's a part of life.
No matter how many times you fail it is still temporary. If you are able to see it this way then you will be able to accept that failure will bring you one step closer to your success.
I have had the tendency to ask God why He didn't help me during a matter. I questioned Him and I questioned my own ability and intelligence every time I encounter disappointment. Then after questioning God, I would go into my old box and take out all the past disappointments I stuffed away and didn't deal with and feel like a complete loser. That happened after the first time I failed my theory exams. I came home and cried all day. My words were "why does everything in my life have to go the hard way. Why can't I just once succeed the very first time!" I will never forget the answer of my husband. He said "what if God doesn't think you are ready yet? What if He knows you are not and He wants you to be well prepared to drive without being a danger to others or yourself". For a moment I was in silence and even though I was crying, in my mind I thought "that's it!" That stopped me from doubting God and seeing things so negatively. Indeed, what if God is not harming you but rather protecting you from possible danger. I'm reminded of the scripture that says "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to PROSPER you and NOT to HARM you, plans to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). God never means harm!
Now I'm on the road ya'll, hallelujurrrrrr!!!! I still feel fear but I'm conquering it by facing it and I'm confident that in time I'm going to master my driving skills, can I get an amen!
Guys, I didn't only get my license but let me tell you this, I got a little wiser too!