Can´t walk in those shoes!

Published on 18 May 2018 at 10:02

Do you ever experience moments or seasons where you feel dissatisfied? Dissatisfaction can lead to comparison and comparison to frustration! It sounds a bit like this " I don't like my current situation, why can't my life be like others??
I hated it when I was a child and my mom would compare me to my best friend. I hate it when I hear parents compare their children to one another or even when friends compare their lives to others. So why do I do it then?

To be honest it happens in a split second! Sometimes I will say things like "all my peers have their driver’s license and I'm the only one who is far behind". Thank God I am able so snap out of it real quick. Because hey, just think about it... our journey in life is never the same as others and there are certain shoes we definitely do not want to walk in no matter the outcome. God lets us know that He planned out our lives even before our parents had any romantic idea (or not) which allowed us to enter this world. And of course we've disrupted the plan along the way by making mistakes, turning our backs on Him, procrastinating.......fill in the gap for yourself. But God! He is loving and forgiving. When we finally come to ourselves He is more than willing to navigate our journey from the place we are and lead us on the right track. So even though you may be dealing with the consequences of the choices you made in the past, you still have the grace of God to accomplish what you did not accomplish then.
There is a scripture that talks about comparison :
Galatians 6:4,5 (ERV)
4 Don’t compare yourself with others. Just look at your own work to see if you have done anything to be proud of. 5 You must each accept the responsibilities that are yours.
I love verse 5 of the scripture : we must accept the responsibilities that are ours. The NKJV says it this way " we must carry our own load. 
Now look at the word load. According to the Cambridge Dictionary a load is the amount of weight carried. Scripture is telling us to carry the amount of weight assigned to us and not the load of our neighbor. That thing that we want so badly costed him/ her a price, so be CAREFUL what you wish for!
Watch out for comparison ya'll, it has a negative vibe that will bring your spirit down. Out of comparison comes: envy, jealousy, hate, dissatisfaction, suicidal thoughts frustration and all kinds of negative emotions that will wear you out and suck the passion out of you. I am learning to be content with what I have and work my way forward. 
There will always be something greater, someone better. Yes the grass may even be greener on the other side, so if you don't allow yourself to be content with what you have now, you will never learn to appreciate your blessings, whether "big" or "small".
I am not everybody and everybody ain't me. Matter of fact, there ain't no other me (thank God, that would be a whole lot to handle, lol). So what's the point in torturing myself by comparing my life with that of my peers, friends, family, celebrities or whoever! 

Just as winter turns into spring, spring to summer, summer to fall and fall to winter, so will the seasons of your life change. Some seasons will be cold and lonely and some will be warm and lovely. If you are in your "cold" season right now, I would encourage you to hold on just a little longer and to embrace what you do have. You can make this season a preparation-season, a learning-season, a restoration-season, an evaluation- season or you can throw yourself a pity party. Two years ago I did just that! I threw me the biggest pity party I ever had. My back was against the wall and my daily question was "God where are You". I was receiving bad news almost every day. It was just too much for me and for the first time in my walk with Christ my faith had gone. I would look around me and in my eyes everybody else was winning and thriving.I felt so behind on everything! I would stay in bed with my pregnant self and sob day and night. Till I realized that my pity party wasn't bringing me any further and the only way to move on was to hold on. So I did just that, I stopped comparing and complaining and started to speak the Word: His plans are higher than mine, that means it's not the end!

Side note: the devil is out there to kill, steal and destroy. I found out that his plan is to push us to the edge of life and that's the place where the most suicidal thoughts are contemplated. He wants to steal your joy and destroy you completely. One way your joy is taken away is by comparison!

Stay on your own lane dear, your journey is not the same as any other person. There is someone out there wishing to walk in your shoes, so rock them while you're wearing them!

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5 years ago

Hi, thank you for your encouragement.
I can say I'm in a season of restoration and evaluation. Sometimes I don't understand what God is doing in my life or where he wants to lead me. One thing I know for sure is not to give up. There are so many things build up in me that I have kept silent for years. And trough his word and prayer he is revealing them to me to let go. But it hurts! And then I wantto give up and just protect myself. How do I trust him with this pain??? I don't want to ga back to the way it used to be. I want to be free and live a life that is pleasing to him.

5 years ago


5 years ago

Hi Vanessa,
The only way you will experience true freedom is when you surrender all. Not letting go may allow you to hide for sometime but a matter of fact is that thing you're holding will pop up at an inconvinient time/ place. As you say you are in a restoration season, allow the restoration to take place. There will be a blessing after the pain, if only you would trust the only One who never fails. You trust Him but ALLOWING Him and giving Him acces to all the chambers of your heart.

Don't be "distracted" by your pain, just like giving birth: there will be greatness after your pain. And who know's wheter it is a pathway to your calling sisterfriend!

Be encouraged


5 years ago

Heel bemoedigend. Dank je wel

5 years ago

I love this blog about comparison and wanting what the other has. I too compare myself to others, to their lives and what they have or how they are. Comparison is like a big fat mosquito buzzing in your head and it doesn't want to die no matter how hard you swing at it. I'm learning to like the situation where I'm at now and hold on to hope for better days/things to come. God bless

5 years ago

So true Eugenie, we all so it occationally. The more we get stuck with looking at others the less we are focused on our own vision!